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STACEY VORNBROCK: MAKING FRIENDS WITH ANGER

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THE  LOVELY OR LIVID LIVER

Did you know that the emotion of anger greatly effects the liver? [link here]. Has it ever crossed your mind, that how we carry out  the most simplest tasks can effect the health and function of our liver? Does feeling that anger is wrong and  bad effect our liver in a negative way? I am very sure that the answer is YES!

BIG BAD ANGER

Anger is seen by some  as  the Pitbull of the emotional world. The reaction to the word anger is, most often, that it is bad. Like the Pitbull anger is greatly misunderstood and misused. The problem with anger is not the emotion itself, but how it is interpreted, unconsciously expressed and repressed. It often gets pushed away and buried down deep.

WHAT IS BEHIND THE ANGER

Stacey Vornbrock, a therapist and EFT practitioner [link here] really opened my eyes to the different ways we see anger and what is really behind it. In summary, what I gleaned from my understanding of Stacey’s work is that behind anger is often unexpressed or unrecognized hurt or fear. It may be seen as weak to admit that we are hurt by someone as opposed to just being pissed off. Something to consider in terms of anger held for a long time toward an ex partner, parent, sibling, etcetera. Behind anger is often a whole lot of tears that go unshed.

EXPRESSING ANGER

In my early life, I saw anger be dealt with in two ways. One was through either some kind of verbal or physical unconscious expression. Two that come to mind are verbal abuse or slamming a door. The other was stuffing it down with food. This could make anger something to be afraid of, ignore or contribute to some very unhealthy eating patterns. The judgements I have had about anger all come from those formative childhood years.

ANGER AS A WARNING: SOMETHNG NEED TO CHANGE!

Making anger “the negative emotion” comes from not having a role model for  a healthy expression. Anger, I have come to understand, is the body and mind telling us that something needs to change. It is an indicator that needs to be acknowledged. Thank you Stacey Vornbrock and Margaret Lynch.[link here].

DYSFUNCTIONAL EXPRESSIONS OF ANGER are verbal or physical abuse towards ourselves or others. A HEALTHY EXPRESSION OF ANGER would be to identify the emotion and, depending on the circumstances, take action to create change. Also, to communicate the anger constructively, channeling the anger through exercise, screaming into pillows, creating art, music, etcetera.

MY OWN EXPERIENCE WITH ANGER

In brief, anger has always been something to vent or fume about, but until recently, I did not see it as a helping messenger. It is saying take action and create change. Anger would often eventually bring change, but after long periods of frustration. Many people in my life defined anger as a negative emotion. I have witnessed the burying of anger with food, alcohol, shopping indulgences. Often anger is accepted as something to endure until enough possessions, money, and or power are amassed to justify it. I never knew anger could be used as a positive motivator. It is not something to feel ashamed of and can be channeled in so many positive ways.

Some of the greatest works of art, plays, films and movements for change have been fueled by feelings of anger and frustration.

The Unique Healing Program  Donna Pessin is something to investigate if you feel toxic, angry and have surmised that consistent feelings of  anger and poor health go hand in hand.

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Author: notyourrawmama

At the age of ten I distinctly remember questioning the premise that illness just happens to us. The idea that every action has a reaction became a clear reason to doubt that I could not personally impact my own health. In my very early twenties I was introduced to the Macrobiotic Philosophy of Life and assisted a Macrobiotic Counselor in NYC over a period of ten years or more. My life took many twists and turns and I evolved from a trained dancer and performer to a Shiatsu Therapist, Yoga Teacher, Colon Therapist and student of different Spiritually oriented Mind Body Therapies at the Esalen Institute and other healing centers. My associations are as follows: Member of the AOBTA for over 20 Years Member of the NCCAOM for approximately 12 years Member of the Yoga Teachers Alliance 500 hours for approximately 12 years Colon Therapist [ Wood's Institute ] Since 1998 Along with studying REIKI [ 2nd degree ] I was part of a School based on the work of Railey Macey, Dr. Robert Jaffe and Hands of Light. Railey Macey was my teacher. Thank you for your interest in my blog. notyourrawmoma "Wherever you are be the soul of that place". Rumi

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