Until recently I did not understand the difference between knowing a personal truth and feeling it. I now understand how different a thought is from a feeling. A feeling seems more visceral. It resonates, for some, in the heart. The difference between the two seems obvious on paper. When a person is their head, most of their waking time, the distinction may go undetected.
I have lived my life, to a great degree, thinking in sentences of comparison. Phrases such as, “At least it is not as bad as” or, “At least I’m not as [ fill in the blank] as. These ideas were part of my spoken and inner dialogue. This kind of thinking is what has kept me stuck in some ways. On the more obvious side, I have caught myself nodding my head in a disappointed, very critical no motion. A form of self discipline. Ha! Neither of these worked very well. They did not help me flourish. They kept me in survival mode.
IF FEELING IS A GUT REACTION THEN…
Physical symptoms are, most probably, a message that we have been outright denying, or unaware of our feelings. Ignoring our body and it’s needs creates physical imbalance and pain. The typical scenario is that we do anything at any cost to stay up and running. Even those that feel they are not part of the Machine, often take on that mentality. A Cog in the Wheel work ethic is one phrase to describe it.
The entire body is where feelings reverberate. The brain is the knowing part and unless they work together, the body is not a happy place. If I can not remember to take a conscious breath, then I am living in my head. Getting pissed off when reminded to breathe or not being able to remember when the last time I took one are examples of being disconnected from my body. We all could use to think less and breathe more.
At one time I thought that because I taught yoga, studied dance, participated in athletics that I was aware of my body and its needs. That awareness is a much less subtle form of connection than the one I am speaking of. It is very mechanical and performance oriented. In many situations, it is what keeps people from stopping when injured or in great discomfort. No pain no gain way of thinking and doing.
WE TEACH WHAT WE NEED TO LEARN
There are many ways to find the path out this disconnected pattern of living. I have to say that many people in the healing arts are some of the worst offenders. Because of their knowledge they think they are not in the dark like their clients. It is easy to loose perspective when those around you are, seemingly, in more pain than you are. I know this one personally and am in recovery from repetitive injuries to one of my legs.
HERE ARE SOME PEOPLE THAT CAN HELP
We have the answers we need to heal and do not know how to access them. Work with practitioners that empower their clients and do not create unhealthy dependencies with them.
Here are four I can personally recommend:
Rue Hass is an excellent practitioner of Emotional Freedom Technique and other modalities that she combines to help people discover their light. [link here].
Rebirthing [ link here] is a very, very valuable tool that can be practiced on our own between sessions with a rebirther. Peace Arnold has great experience and humor.
Shamanic Healing [link here] is a soulful way to take a journey within to find answers and questions that we don’t realized we possess. Janice Zwail has a broad range of healing tools that she brings to her practice.
Postscript 11/2013: The Unique Healing Program Donna Pessin is the most complete healing program for the physical as well as the emotional body. I have 30 years of researching within me. 70+ video youtube tutorials, an informative website provides free information. Two books and the first chapter of one is available on the UHP website. This program is not a quick fix.