THE WAY WE DO ONE THING MAY BE THE WAY WE DO EVERYTHING
The longer I do something the more emotionally invested I am, consciously or unconsciously, in defending that behavior. Creating change happens when I repeatedly feel sick and tired of having the same negative outcome from my actions. Giving up something familiar can bring up feelings that I deem as sad. A wistful feeling about letting go of the old habits and begin making changes.
Resistance to relinquishing the crutches I go to when I am afraid of change prolongs not taking action. Why should I when I can temporarily cushion an emotional ouch with these behaviors and substances? The main reason, in brief, is the mourning of all the time spent doing something that, in retrospect, looks and feels like it has been a big waste of time. Of course, at the time it did not seem like a waste. Feelings are not based on facts. That is why, past or present, my addictive behaviors do not always make sense.
Entering uncharted territory without people for support is one thing that creates addiction to all kinds of behavior and substances, even the ones that seem healthy. No real replacement for love and support, addictions do temporarily numb the ouch. Unfortunately they often create a bigger ouch in the end.
To give up present behavior consciously or unconsciously can bring up feelings of failure and who wants to feel that? To change and do something different feels like what I have been doing was wrong and then I may feel sad. Uncomfortable feelings I would seek out to numb or hide with the addictive behavior and substances I need to let go of. A crazy circle of behavior.
It is easy to call another person who I know will tell me what I want to hear depending on my motivation. To socialize with people who feel similarly, who are open or closed to change. Someone who will defend my inner argument for staying stuck or moving forward. It can be lonely when there is no support system to help begin healthy behaviors.
Having equity invested in businesses of all kinds can create a huge blind spot for change. Proponents of all kinds alternative health businesses can be appreciated for the information they have shared over the years. They are also people to question and be wary of. Many people have created their identity around a way of eating, drinking and living. One example is the proponents of 100% raw food diets. There are many, many others in different genres of health. This not even touching Allopathic – Western Medical physicians and their counterparts.
Entertaining another way of living is a threat to the personal and business identity of many health gurus. Admitting to eating foods that they once deemed as poisonous or destructive is, for many, extremely unlikely. They seem to be the most extreme. The solution: We all need to develop and trust our own intuition one situation at a time.
As a postscript: Check out The Unique Healing Program Donna Pessin [link]. This is a protocol that has the potential to heal the digestive tract and entire body. IT IS NOT A MAGIC BULLET.