HELP IS NOT THAT FAR AWAY
I personally do not know of any one practitioner or protocol of any persuasion that can absolve ALL of the distress that people face when healing. This statement stems from my personal and clinical experience. I generally do not like to make generalizations. They often feel good at the time, in the most self righteous sort of way. In this situation, however, I can stand by what I said above.
Realizing that health advisors, family and friends can not be there for us in ways they are not able, due to the fact that they can not feel what we are feeling, can be emancipating. No one can fill all our needs. Maybe pleading this case will help someone reading this post who is ailing, healing, and feeling alone. For some of us, these words could be a wake up call to take care of our health while we are more able bodied. It can make us stronger when we realize people, even people that love us, can only do so much. The rest is up to the one who is on the road to recovery. If that sounds cold, it is not meant to.
NOBODY KNOWS HOW AWFUL I FEEL
Well, you may not have ever said this, but I know I have, just ask my husband. Maybe you can not allow yourself to admit to how lousy you feel, or you just don’t know how you feel. This may be because you are surrounded by people that you are sure are way worse off than you are. Maybe you are the caregiver. Be careful, comparison can prove deadly. What I am attempting to say here is that what matters greatly is recognizing that none of us are truly alone. The next step is actually feeling what that feels like. You are not alone in feeling alone! Masking symptoms with drugs does not solve this alone feeling in the experience of many people today. People taking antidepressants. People using other kinds of recreational and non-recreational, over the counter and prescription meds. So, getting through to the point of feeling better while unearthing the sludge inside is no joy ride. Yes, I do know about The UHP Crutches. There are medical ones, too. You may also need the medical ones to get through a healing – cleansing crisis. Donna Pessin talks about this in her books. Reading this can help you feel okay about what YOU may need to do to heal.
If you are reading this post you are probably on the road to looking at a healing program, considering The Unique Healing Program, or at some stage of doing The UHP, or something else. If you are experiencing a healing crisis, you may be saying to yourself – how can I close this Pandora’s Box of feeling sick that I opened up? Well, if you opened it then you [the box], were probably seeping at the seams. It was either go to the “make it all go away” doctor – practitioner, or do something different. This can feel like quite a mess! BTW, YOU and I are not a mess, but the perception that life is a mess, that you or I are an unhealable mess is a symptom of being sick. Everything is wrong and a bloody disaster. Everything from feeling alienated, unloved, and highly overwhelmed. Oh yeah, and the planet is finished. Drama!
WHAT IS THE POINT OF THIS POST? DOES THERE HAVE TO ALWAYS BE ONE?
Well, part is to let other people seeking some answers know that there is, in my experience, no one person who can make it all go away. I want my Mommy! That there IS help, as far as help can be found, all over the place. Donna Pessin is no great writer, she does not need to be. However, her books can be of great assistance. The effort is there and Donna Pessin’s most helpful self greatly comes through in her books and videos. Her videos, I have found, are informative and can also be very comforting. If you want to knit pick you could say the information in the videos and books are sometimes confusing. Sometimes they seem to be saying one thing and then disputing it in another part of the books, or other videos. However, they are there and do provide guidance from her experience. Keep reading her books and watching her videos. Continue to entertain the idea that you are NOT alone. I won’t go as far as to call that feeling of aloneness a myth, because when you are in it it can feel very real.
I have learned from Yoga [yoke or union] that looking for what joins us is the way to being at peace. Not looking for what sets us apart. Sometimes what seems to makes us different is what connects us, it is just harder to see. Why? Because most of us learn to look for what is wrong and how we are different. Often people get comfortable in our misconceptions and build a life around it. For most, change feels uncomfortable, but the other side of that is true healing. I have been working on implementing that Yoga philosophy in my daily life for decades. It has challenged the fabric of my beliefs. Living with a positive, Yoga focus is way easier. Perceiving life this way makes healing easier, too.
Don’t give up on your recovering your health. Do it at the pace you are able. Please know others are questioning this healing process and feeling as alone as you are. Now that is ironic!
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