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TALKING TO MYSELF AND FEELING BETTER. REALLY.

TIME ALONE DOES NOT HEAL EVERYTHING

After my father died, about 6 years ago, I knew I needed to confront my sadness. I was fortunate to have my husband, but I needed to sort through and unload my feelings often, and in a more therapeutic way.  I wanted to unburden myself out loud and have a listener. With friends the glitch was that I did not want to hear the words that gave me zero solace. Sorry for your loss, and I am so sorry to hear that, rang hollow to me and provided no resolution. These were phrases that left me feeling more alone. Yes, I do understand that death is uncomfortable for people, and certain routine expressions fill a need. Words that are  easily accessed. They can be used without feeling the heart wrenching pain that accompanies death. So, I decided to talk to myself.

SO GET SOME THERAPY!

I was living in a new part of the US and did not want to start a relationship with a psychotherapist, a rebirther, shaman, etcetera. I also did not find traditional psychotherapy direct enough. Been there, done that. I also needed more relief than one session a week could provide.  I needed to help myself. So, after a number years of using Emotional Freedom Technique I knew I had enough tools to heal, and this time on my own terms. I had this clear sense that I could give myself the support and daily venting I needed. I had a few years of ezperiencing Emotional Freedom Technique in private sessions with a couple of practitioners. Also, some good information from listening to  The World Tapping Summit produced by The Tapping Solution.

TAKING ACTION

We were renting a house in Palm Springs, California with two large walk in closets, one of which we were not using. I would go into that one, very large, empty closet with a chair and a box of tissues and begin to talk to my dad and cry. I used the Tapping Points from Emotional Freedom Technique while I talked either out loud or silently. It was one of the most cathartic and healing experiences of my life up to that point. EFT was there for me when I needed it, it was free, and it did not have to end in the usual 55 minutes of most traditional therapy sessions. Those tapping / venting sessions were very revealing. I learned more about myself and my feelings concerning my father, family, and life than I ever thought possible. Soon I brought in another chair and sat it across from me. I would imagine that my father, mother, or whomever else I wanted to talk to was sitting across from me. The results were highly unburdening. They were filled with many emotions, primarily the sad relief of letting go of all that sadness. Forgiveness and deeper understanding of myself and others was my gift each day. Those sessions helped me move on.

DETOXING PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY

For people who are willing to try to access feelings of sadness, loss, confusion, etcetera that arise when healing from illness, Emotional Freedom Technique and Faster EFT can be extremely helpful. From my own recent experience, EFT can be made more effective by using The 5 Second Rule that Mel Robbins has created. Her audiobook is available, as of right now, on Youtube. If you like audiobooks, I think it is worth the investment, or purchasing the book itself.

UNEXPRESSED EMOTIONS HAVE A NEGATIVE PHYSICAL EFFECT

When we release toxic matter that has been stored in the body for decades there are emotions that are connected with those toxins. We often self medicate with food, sugar, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, television, video games, shopping, etcetera to avoid confronting uncomfortable feelings. As children we learn from adults how to shove our pain away with these behaviors and substances. This is a very short handed explanation  as to why people suffer so much when they “clean house”. We crave the things that shielded us from the emotional pain, and those cravings return with a vengeance when we remove them. It is called withdrawal, and it can bite.

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DOWN IN THE DUMPS? TAKE ONE!

CRASS LANGUAGE SOMETIMES SAYS IT ALL

My first hand experience is that most of us do not fully understand the great significance of a healthy, or unhealthy bowel. How it effects our all over health is not something we are guided to question. Also, there is a deep lack of understanding of the depths of what our bodies need to eliminate in order to avoid chronic illness. My personal understanding of my own body, in this very specific way, has impacted my life greatly. Lessons learned that have left me changed both physically and emotionally. Just to be clear, I am not only talking about the relief most every person feels after a “good dump”. DUMP, another grubby sounding word that has four letters. Just the sound of it says it all.

THE COMMON BOND OF LAUGHTER

One evening, several years ago, I was watching a late night television show that was followed by repeats of a USA sitcom called Two and a Half Men. I had never seen the show before and was surprised at how it got me to laugh out loud. Laughing is something I love to do and I don’t do enough of it. I was surprised how funny a major  network show could be. I just connect most mainstream / network TV with laugh tracks. Anyway, when something makes me laugh I don’t care what the source is. Finding Two and a Half Men was a good thing on many levels. Over the next few months, I recorded and watched the series. At that point the show had been on the air for about 9 years. it ran for 12.

JAKE IS DEPRESSED

During my obsession with Two and a Half Men I saw a segment where the child on the show (Jake), who is usually an energetic spitfire, becomes sluggish and aloof. The adults can not figure out what is wrong. Why is Jake so down? Is it a school problem, neglect of his divorced mom and dad, his naughty Uncle Charlie’s influence? His mom and dad take him to a shrink. and the shrink seems to need more help than Jake does. Here is an excerpt.

GOOD OLE PRUNES

In the end the wise and dry witted housekeeper slips the kid a good dose of prune juice before bedtime. The next morning Jake’s spirits are lifted and the kid is propelling himself around the house like a rocket ship. The prune juice worked wonders. Just one good dump, maybe two, and the kid had a new lease on life.

IS IT REALLY THAT SIMPLE?

Well, I have needed more than prune juice to feel better, but I resonated with the  shows message. I have found such deep and high lows with the removal of some nasty, old things coming out of my body over the past decades. It has become more profound while following the directions of  Jennifer Daniels, MD. Dr. Daniels approach is a unique construct of her personal experience and with patients. Her knowledge has most definitely furthered my understanding of cleansing and rebuilding my body. It is truly a balancing act. Her knowledge has helped me get to necrotic material that I was not able  to with decades of intermittent fasting, liver/gallbladder flushes, cleansing programs, colonics, etcetera. Working with Dr. Daniels has been a deep education. As I have learned from her, I also am learning from my own self observation. The emotional highs and lows, that occur as waste is dredged up and escorted out of my body. has become less and less, and shorter lived.  I can most definitely correlate emotional ups and downs with what comes out in “the bowl”, or what doesn’t.

Prune juice may be a rather simplistic solution to depression and constipation, but there is truth in the message. Of major importance is that laughing is important medicine. Laughter is an extremely necessary and valuable companion to have when healing the body, mind and soul. The good news is that things do get easier. Stay the course.

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BATHROOM SHAME: SH@T HAPPENS

THERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU JUST CAN NOT FLUSH AWAY…

Healing can be messy. Toxins leave our bodies through our bowels, urine, breath and skin. If this does not happen health is disrupted and illnesses arise. It is really that simple. I have come to realize that many people will do just about anything to not confront their shit, both physically and emotionally. When that is the case, Pharmaceutical Companies to the rescue. Why people choose drugs is something I can understand. Healing my own long term gut problem is, and has been, a great opportunity to develop empathy for others, and myself. To feel the reasons why people turn to pharmaceuticals for help. It takes conscious effort and sometimes sacrifice to heal without pharmaceuticals. Healing without meds has also taught me the depth of gut problems. Also, I have come to more fully understand why masking symptoms with drugs,  especially long term, only leads to much more serious health issues down the line.

F THIS

Have you ever specifically noticed that “dirty” words such as shit and fuck are about body parts and actions below the waist? Functions we all learn to feel ashamed of, or uncomfortable with. I have known people who have told me they  never look in the toilet to see what comes out of themselves. That alone says volumes about the person, our society, and how confused and unhealthy people can be both physically and emotionally.

Today, here in the USA, there are numerous ads and commercials online and on television for meds like Humira. Humira  is a doctor prescribed pharmaceutical designed  to treat gut, skin and joint inflammation. Television commercials and ads online for Pharmaceuticals are abundant.  Commercial time on US networks is not cheap. There is obviously a deep need for these products. If these Anti-Inflammatory  products were not sought after the manufacturers would not be making them.

People spend most of their lives uncomfortable physically and emotionally around their waste matter. In our later years many of us end up wearing diapers, needing someone to help us to the toilet, or change a diaper. Taking charge of our digestive health before things get to that point is imperative. If this issue is not addressed the problems worsen as we age. Some of the lowest paid workers, aids in nursing homes and hospitals, deal with the bodily waste that other members of a patient’s family do not want to deal with. Digestive and bowel issues that, most often, the patient themselves did not deal with. These are daily issues that did not begin in the bathroom. Issues that began with food and lifestyle choices. There are environmental exposures to toxins and other situations that are sometimes out of our control, as in Flint, Michigan

If any of this resonates with you, as it has with me, there are actions you can take. Our choices in life are all very different, but with the internet there are many ways to find answers to how to improve our gut health and be independent throughout our entire lives.

So, if you find the thought of your fecal matter, poop, shit something you just want to ignore, but can not any longer, you probably have a good reason to feel that way. Sorry, but what we avoid all our lives is often the thing that haunts us until we may not be able to run, walk, limp, or shuffle away from any longer.

Some resources for improving overall, digestive, and gut health:

Dr. Jennifer Daniels, MD Vitality Capsules

Donna Gates Body Ecology Diet

Dr. Robert Morse, ND I have not done this program, but I have heard some good things about Dr. Morse from more than one person.

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CORRECT TOES TOE SPACERS: REALIGNING INFLAMED FEET

ONE PART OF A HEALTHY NON-SURGICAL SOLUTION

I recently purchased a product called  Correct Toes for help with straightening out  hammer toes. realigning my feet and minimizing my bunions. I have used  Yamuna Zake’s products for my feet for self foot massage. The Yamuna Foot Walkers are very helpful in a different way. I also wanted something that would help to separate and elongate my toes while doing daily tasks and resting. Correct Toes answers this need.

Soaking my feet in a mixture of epsom salts, bentonite clay, vinegar and honey has been helpful for my feet and my entire body. There are detox foot recipes similar to this online. I  just keep it simple and add all ingredients to a small plastic tub and add hot water. Filtered water is best. Detoxing through the feet is something that is a part of many healing traditions. Drawing out toxins through the feet is a part of Traditional Medicine throughout world. Pedicures are so popular today for many reasons. Removing callouses, fungal and other necrotic material makes people feel better, and not just because of how it looks, or feels to the feet alone. What is on our feet is a reflection of the rest of our body. Link for some photos here.

Dr. Jennifer Daniels, MD has some helpful ideas for detoxing through the feet which I first heard about through her group classes. She probably talks about this in some of her radio shows which can be accessed on her website.

These Toe Separators from Yoga Toes are different in that they can NOT be worn while walking around. Yoga Toes are less expensive than Correct Toes. Depending on your needs they may work for you. One thing Yoga Toes are good for is wearing while soaking our feet. I think you could do the same with Correct Toes but the ingredients in the Foot Soaking Formulas might degrade the materials that the Correct Toes are made of. Correct Toes are made to be flexible so they are most likely not going to last as long if exposed to Epsom Salts, etcetera.

Sitting down to soak our feet is relaxing but challenging for people. Making time for ourselves in our own homes is sometimes problematic. With so much to do soaking our feet seems like a luxury. In the end, Detox Foot Soaks have helped me be more productive and feel more calmly energized. Combined with the Correct Toes, that can be worn while being active, foot soaks have become something I enjoy making regular time for.

FYI, being active wearing Correct Toes is something a person builds up to incrementally. As frustrating as it can be to many of us, healing is a process.

Our feet are important to take care of. Aside from the points covered in Reflexology Theory, our feet are a mirror for what is going on in our entire body. Crusty, callused feet with thick, ridged, brittle nails, etc. are a commentary about the rest of our health. Our feet tell a story that is not to be ignored.

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HEALING INFLAMED HIPS: THE RECONSTRUCTION PROCESS

After decades of experiencing different healing protocols, I can honestly say that I do not believe what works for me will work for everyone else. These blog posts are written to share my experience and help others.

If you have found this blog post you may think you have come upon one recipe for healing hip pain. You have, but not directly. I am a patient of Dr. Jennifer Daniels, MD. Part of being her patient involves signing a type of release form. The form asks for each patient to not divulge exact protocols that she has developed for healing. I signed it, and am in complete agreement with it. I feel that it is very fair request, especially coming from Dr. Daniels. Why is that? Well, she  has put in a great deal of hard work over the years to develop her approach to healing. Dr. Daniels has paid her dues with her Western Medical education, Holistic education, her clinical work with her  patients, and her own Self Healing. A person can truly appreciate her expertise by being either a private patient, following her broadcasts, or are involved in her group consults that happens once a month for a nominal fee.

THE HEALING PROCESS

Dr. Daniels has a unique approach that simultaneously involves cleansing and rebuilding the body on many levels. Her Traditional Medical Training and Practice experience is coupled with her objective understanding of Western Medicine. With this experience, she has developed totally alternative healing approach to achieve a non-surgical protocol for joint rehabilitation and recovery.

As a Bodyworker, Yoga Teacher, Colon Therapist I have met a large number of people who have had hip and joint replacements. Even if successful, these patients can end up needing replacements of other joints. Finding the root cause of joint degeneration is not part of most Traditional Medical Orthopedic Medical Practices. I know this first hand. I am currently regenerating my hip joints with Dr. Daniels guidance and can personally attest that the process she employs is working for me. I know for certain that each person and their situation is different. The time taken for each person to heal is mutually exclusive.

The healing process that Dr. Daniels employs for reducing body inflammation and healing joints involves strategies of all kinds. She employs formulas and recipes that stem from Traditional Medicines all over the world. Time and effort is involved and required by the patient. This is truly a whole body system healing process. It has to be since all organs and all body systems work in unison. All organs impact the function of each other.

ONE OBSERVATION

There are a wide percentage of people do not do well with placing foreign objects made of surgical steel, zirconium, plastic, silicone and saline breast implants (to name a few) inside their body. These are some of the materials used in dentistry, ear piercings, facial restorations, breast implants, etcetera that put pressure on the Immune system of the human body. Something to consider if joint replacement is something that you are considering.

NOT SUCH COMMON KNOWLEDGE

Healing joint pain is a whole body process. It is not just in the joint itself. Replacing the joint, for most people, will not be their only related medical exploration. More surgeries and other health complications are likely to be in their future. This is especially true if the cause of inflammation is not addressed on a preventative level. A good start is believing that a non-surgical approach to healing is in fact possible.

IN SUMMARY

The non-surgical approach to helping people recover, rehabilitate, and quite simply heal inflamed joints, depending on the situation, is not a quick process. It is not a take two and call me in the morning, or even next month deal. Consider this: If you are wary of joint replacement surgery it is worth your time to find out more about what causes inflammation and how the human body can heal if given the right tools.

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HEALING FROM ECTOPARASITES: MY EXPERIENCE WITH MY DAD

Both my parents were open minded and curious people. Of course, everything in life is relative. When it came to health they were both very cautious about taking pharmaceuticals, questioning and extremely hesitant about  the treatment protocols of Traditional Allopathic Medicine. So, when I got introduced to Preventive Medicine and more Holistic approaches to healing, at about age 17, both my Mom and Dad were interested.

Fast forward decades, I asked my Dad, now a widower, to go see a colon therapist and do a cleansing program that the therapist would supervise. Not unfamiliar with colonics and other things of this nature, he got onboard and immediately felt better. After about two weeks I started to notice a some big positive changes in his behavior. A person who would not call me often and have much to say, I started getting more regular phone calls. His demeanor was one of the father I had always wanted him to be, more communicative and engaged. I immediately connected it to the cleansing program he was involved with, and he agreed. I can remember being so elated about our relationship changing, and then it stopped…

WHAT DO I DESERVE?

What changed? I stopped hearing from him. I called him and found out that he had stopped the cleansing program. When I asked him why, he had a whole bunch of excuses. Basically, he said he did not feel he needed to do it anymore. I don’t remember exactly how I reacted, but I am sure I got really mad and disgusted with him and his decision. Behind that anger was hurt and disappointment. My desire was to control him in the most positive sense. I had been this route with him before with other things that helped make him feel better. Actions he would start and then stop not long after he had begun feeling the benefits.

Other than my father I had seen this pattern before with myself and others. As years went by I began to hypothesize that very often people want to do what is best for themselves but can not stay the course. One major reason is that change is uncomfortable. Feeling better is a change that may not feel quite right after years of feeling to the contrary. It can, and most likely will, interfere with the relationships we already have with our spouses, friends, people at work, our job choices, religious beliefs, food, health, and so much more.

What are you so f’ing happy about? This is a question people and even ourselves may be asking. What do I do with these new feelings? All the years, behaviors spent doing things that did not serve us. Feeling better in the present brings up questions about the past and future. Who am I now? Okay, these questions may not be conscious, I am pretty sure they were not conscious for my father, but they were unconsciously directing his decisions concerning his health on every level.

ONE HELPFUL ADJUNCT FOR CHANGE

In most recent posts I mentioned Faster EFT (Faster Emotional Freedom Technique) as a path to better self understanding in making lifestyle, behavior, and all kinds of changes. The videos that are available on youtube are free. The founder of Faster EFT, Robert  Gene Smith, has generously made thousands of videos and lays out how to do Faster EFT on our own. Faster EFT Therapists are available, but the work done on ourselves is the key to staying the course in doing things that are good for ourselves. Things that often feel very unfamiliar. Yes, feeling good can feel extremely unfamiliar and the fear that arises can stop us from finding any sense of peace.

ON ANOTHER NOTE

Effective Parasite Cleansing support is available from a number of people. No one path is right for any one person. I am a patient of Dr. Jennifer Daniels, MD.  Do some research on the subject and find out what is right for you.

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ENDOPARASITES: ARE YOU A GOOD HOST?

BILOGICAL PARASITES

How do people become hosts to parasites? There are many ways. Parasites are similar to house guests that overstay their invitation, or seemingly just show up and don’t want to leave? Well, there are many scenarios. Here is one:

Living in a home where there is consistent emotional stress combined with exposure to environmental toxins is not strengthening to any immune system. This is a situation that I can attest to. I grew up in a family where there was a birth of a child, my brother, who had Down Syndrome. My brother lived to be two years of age. Our parents stayed together during his life and after his death, but their marriage was greatly damaged. It was damaged by their not getting counseling, the issues they showed up with to their marriage, and strongly by the shame of that era around Down Syndrome. Also, the interpretation that people seem to garner from a religious standpoint. The self flagellating idea that a child with Down Syndrome, or any life altering illness, is a punishment from God. Something to be ashamed of. What did we do “wrong”? With time and education some of this superstition masquerading as spirituality has been chipped away at. Sadly, within this and many other situations, it is still present and painfully damaging.

ENVIRONMENTAL CHALLENGES

Along with the stress of the shame, the remorse and guilt my parents felt, we also lived in a house that had  toxic black mold. Back in the 60’s I don’t think exposure to mold was understood or spoken about as it is today. For years much of the mold was hidden and passed through the ventilation system of the house. A metaphor for the unspoken emotional ills. The mold plus the directly unspoken sadness around my brother, and so much more, added up to a stressful equation for emotional and physical health.

Although I have good memories of my childhood there was much between my parents that went unspoken. It did not go unnoticed by me as a child. I think most children have emotional radar that they do not have the skills to fully understand. Children can often feel that everything, in the negative sense, is about them and that they are at fault. The emotional situation in my home, combined with daily life challenges was not empowering. It made us all more vulnerable to the mold. It made daily life covertly, and not so covertly, stressful. With these factors comes acting out, by children and adults. Wide emotional swings such as crying, bickering, brooding combined with constant exposure to any environmental toxin weakens the immune system even more deeply. I would imagine that dead silence and deep depression would be equally as destructive.

There are people that grow up exposed to serious environmental contaminants and it does not damage their Immune Systems. However, if there is the type of consistent emotional stress, similar to what I just described, an angry divorce, drug or alcohol abuse, physical abuse, etcetera without being addressed by some counseling the door to a weakened immune system is wide open. People in these situations often bury their feelings in addictive behaviors. Over eating, shopping, tv watching, gambling, sex, alcohol and drug use, exercise, cleaning, perfectionism. I think any activity done in excess to avoid emotions will in some way come back and bite.

ENDOPARASITES 

The emotional component of ongoing stress combined with exposure to environmental toxins weakens the immune system. Gone unaddressed these factors can lay out the welcome mat for Biological Parasites / Endoparasites. The combination of these factors, needed for deep healing to occur, are best not overlooked.

Dr. Jennifer Daniels, MD is a doctor who understands the world of Traditional Medicine. She is brave enough to actively speak out about her views on this subject . Dr. Daniels effectively practices her own unique form of Holistic Medicine. She is able to do this because she understands the healing ability of the human body. She lives that truth and helps her patients, if they are willing. understand that if given the right tools the human body is capable of  healing and overcoming some daunting obstacles.

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