BROKEN OR BROKEN OPEN? TURNING LEMONS INTO LEMONADE
As a person who is in the process of healing from Chronic Inflammation, I have used the time to reflect about my life on many levels. During this period I have come to some positive habit and life changing realizations. I now understand that the dietary, and other healing protocols, which I embraced and practiced for many years, kept me from taking medications, having injections and surgeries. This does not include dental procedures that I do regret, but quite frankly did not know what else to do. In looking back, I clearly see that one of the primary things I would like to reel back is my judgement of other people when they became ill, my own mother being one of those people. Tears. I can see now that my judgement came from fear of losing control and becoming ill myself. I separated myself from their situations with judgements born out of fear. I was very “sure” the illnesses of others was because of their diet, lifestyle, unresolved emotional and spiritual conflicts. In fact, when diet, lifestyle, alternative therapies did not work for people I would analyze their behaviors, finding fault in their emotional and spiritual decisions and behavior. I was very wrong in making those determinations, and I can now let them go.
FEAR OF THE OTHER
There are so many factors that contribute to declining health. Would it be fair to judge the innocent children, adults, pets, and all other life forms living in Flint, Michigan for the severe illnesses that they are experiencing due to their unaware exposure to Lead and other Heavy Metals in their water and soil? I do not think so. Consider the high percentage of children with Autism living in the state of New Jersey. I think it is 1 out of 23 children have that diagnosis. I said the rate of Autism among children in NJ has tripled recently. Many Military Veterans have been exposed to contaminants on posts in the Middle East, and here in the USA, and have become ill or died from their exposure. “Thank you for your service” is a verbal fart from most politicians today. These are just three examples. The list is innumerable and diverse, and I do not say that lightly.
Maybe someone reading this post, maybe you, can relate to my reaction to illness in myself and anyone I come in contact with. Self observation and observation of others has made it clearer to me that many people, including myself, have been negatively effected by feelings of guilt and blame concerning illness within ourselves and others. Thoughts that are accepted and often go unquestioned. What does that look and sound like? Well, here are some examples:
NOT EXACTLY A WALK IN THE PARK
One morning I was walking our dog with a friend who told me that someone she knew was having a reoccurrence of an illness for the third time. “I don’t know what she did in a past life to deserve all this”. Past life, what about this one? Let’s really get cruel. Wow, I remember thinking, this statement is coming from a person who I always perceived as more thoughtful and compassionate than those words. Reflecting back I have come to recognize that when people, myself included, are frightened we say things like this. When fear of death or losing control takes over these kind of statements spew out. BTW, I do not think Past Lives are a joke, it is using that premise as a weapon against ourselves and others that is the problem.
LET THAT BELIEF DIE
While recently watching a television show I heard a person whose family member was murdered say, “They did not deserve this”. Okay, so on the surface that seems somewhat understandable, but when I gave it some thought I felt those words were highly revealing about our world in general. When people have a tragic event, or what some might call misfortune, some of us feel as though we – they have been punished for some “sinful” deed. I think a statement like that one, spoken out load, says a great deal more about the shame some people feel about life not matching up to some fairy tale idea of what life is suppose to be. We are telling others what we fear most, in this case the loss of a loved one. When thoughts go unexamined they can be very damaging to our abilities to be kind and forgiving to ourselves and others.
WHO DESERVES WHAT?
In 2018 someone I know had plans to go to a concert in Las Vegas, NV where there was a mass shooting. Many people where were injured and died. At the last minute this person decided not to go. They told me that, in their words, “God was watching over me.” Hmmm, I remember thinking, so God was not watching over those who were murdered and injured? Thinking that some of us are protected and others are not, for various reasons, is the kind of thinking that separates us from others in the worst possible way. This kind of judgement is completely unhelpful to being an empathetic and free thinking human being. Their belief that they were protected and others were not sounds like a narcissistic biblical interpretation of the bible? It is more than implied in some religious dogma. It reads to me as a way to control people in a fearful manner, and keep us all self doubting, afraid, and in check.
JUST TO CLARIFY
What is at the crux of this post and what am I trying to say here, if that is not clear to the reader? Well, I feel, think, and now know that this fearful and judgmental way of determining and treating ourselves and others is dangerous to the threadbare social fabric that presently exists. Why? In a world that needs people to come together to solve problems it can only help each one of us to face these self isolating and judgmental ways of viewing others and ourselves. This is true for our own healing and that of the planet. Most importantly, Traditional Medicine does not fully recognize, or recognize at all, that environmental contaminates and other poisons are direct causes of cancer and other illnesses. Long term masking of illness and symptoms related to chronic disease with drugs is not helpful in finding the causes for these life disrupting and changing diseases.
Finally, destructive behavior such as drug, alcohol, and food abuse (there are many) can come about by being exposed to environmental poisons and many other factors that are often totally out of our control. So, judging others who are ill due to these addictions softens when we recognize and understand what creates these often deadly addictions.
HEAR AND BE HEARD
I strongly feel that these days it is most important to be kind to others despite the unending litany of anonymous snarky communications that proliferates on the web. This is especially true in social media, and everywhere else. The cowardliness that fosters the ability to leave nasty comments without fully owning them is not behavior to respond to, or respect on any level.
I am a patient of Jennifer Daniels, MD. She does recognize the cause of illness from the exposure to contaminants of all kinds and treats people without the use of medications. Most importantly, she fully understands how to do this. Dr. Daniels does this from her experience with many patients and, most impressively, herself.